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Hen Party Horrors

By admin on October 24th, 2006 5 comments

Hensignbride Unlike most of the brides I know, I’m not planning a hen night. This is mostly due to pure laziness: my female friends are currently scattered the length and breadth of Europe, and getting them all in the same place at the same time would probably be almost as much of a "project" as planning the wedding.

To be brutally honest, though, I can’t imagine many things worse that the standard British hen party: the L-plates, the "hilarious" fancy dress, the cheesy male strippers… Definitely not my idea of a good time, so even if I do decide to have a girlie get-together at the last minute, it’ll be strictly an "L-plates-free" zone.

The other thing I don’t like about modern weddings (I know I’m making myself sound like a real crumblie here, but I’m not, honest!) is the "hen weekend" that so many people seem to be going for now. Obviously I can see the appeal – well, who wouldn’t want to get away for a nice little mini-break? – but it all seems just a wee bit excessive to me. Maybe I’m just stingy, but attending a wedding can be expensive enough, especially if overnight accommodation is required, so the idea of shelling out a few hundred pounds for the hen night doesn’t particularly appeal.

So, now that I’ve made myself sound like a right old misery-guts, tell me – is it just me? What are you doing for your hen night?

  • Sista Lou

    I’m not married but have been on oodles hen nights and hen weekends over the last few years. There’s a lot of pressure to have a big blow-out and I don’t see the point. It’s not as if you’re never going to be able to go out again once you’re is married, and if brides see the hen night as the last night of “freedom” then maybe they should question why they’re getting married at all. Personally, I much prefer a nice wee mini-break with my chums just for the heck of it, rather than being loaded down with all the presumptions that go with going out as a “Hen Party”. The best wedding related girls night out I have had was a (fairly) quiet night out in a local pub the night before the wedding, where all the female members of the wedding party (friends and family of the bride) got together to get to know each other before the mad whirlwind of the actual day. Much more fun that having to drag the chief bridesmaid out of the gents toilets in a cheezy nightclub, or escort the bride to A&E after a go-karting/paintballing accident.

    Looks like I’m a bit of stingy misery too..hurrah for us!!

  • Two nights before the wedding, I had my future sister-in-law and a close girlfriend over for pizza and Katamari Damacy. Very low-key and relaxing.

  • Tiffany, that’s exactly the kind of thing I’d do, if I decide to do anything at all!

    And Sista Lou – hurrah for us indeed!

  • Manda

    I am all for the big weekend out. We went to Las Vegas for my friend’s party and it was a blast. I am going there for mine as well. I have another one this weekend I am going to in San Diego and another in March in Newport Beach (I live in California). Because we are all getting married so close together we are doing very different things. The San Diego trip will be an all day spa experience with a night of bar hopping. The Newport trip will be mostly laying on the beach with drinks, and mine will be the gambling, drinking, dancing all weekend party. I would be very disappointed if my friends didn’t have a “hen night”.

  • Caroline

    Ah well now I fancy a hen night, but a day/night is all it will be. Likewise one sign of L plates and I will be on my way home. I do think it is a great way for the girlie contingent to meet up prior to the big day. What I hate is when you end up forking out an absolute fortune to go on the hen do, ontop of the wedding etc and it isn’t something you would normally want to spend huge chunks of cash on. What many brides forget is that they get their day paid for most of the time so insisting on a uber expensive jolly is not what many of us need. Saying that and thinking about my own it can be quite tricky to do something really fun for not too much dosh – a rock and a hard place a bit methinks

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