Ever since we set the date for our wedding, a debate has raged in my family – a debate which, I’m sad to say, shows no sign of being resolved any time soon. It concerns favours: what to have, and, indeed, whether to have them at all.
In the red corner: my mum, who is taking the old skool approach of "it’s a wedding, and people will expect to be given a favour". In the blue corner: me, with the opinion that it’s all a bit of a waste of money, really, and we’d be better off spending that money on something the guests would really appreciate. (Alcohol springs to mind.)
I think perhaps my problem is that I’ve been to too many weddings where, at the end of the night, the tables have still been strewn with unappreciated fripperies to feel in any way enthusiatic about bestowing such things on my own guests. And, being the budget bride that I am, there’s also the part of me that thinks that it’s a lot of money to spend on something so insignificant. Bah, humbug. (Or rather, "bah, sugared-almonds-in-a-net-bag", rather).
If we do decide to have favours (and something tells me we probably will), my preference is for something edible or drinkable. At least that way those who don’t like the food or drink provided will be able to pass it on to someone else who does, and if there are favours left at the end of the night I’m sure the family will be more than happy to take them off our hands. (Or, you know, I could eat them myself.)
I also quite liked the idea of charity pins. Terry (my fiance) had a kidney transplant last year, so I had thought it might be nice to have Kidney Foundation pins as favours – an idea which Terry nixed instantly, as he doesn’t want to force a charity upon anyone, or have people constantly asking about his operation on our wedding day.
He, meanwhile, favours (no pun intended) using lottery tickets as favours – as does my mum. I’m not so sure: while I think it would be lovely if one of the guests won, the likelihood is that no one will win, which makes lottery tickets seem like an even bigger waste of money than food or drink. And so it goes on, round and round in circles, with no end in sight. We have just under five months left, so there’s still time to choose: and given the current rate of progress, it may well take the full five months.
Are you having favours at your wedding? What are you having?
(The favour box in the picture comes from DIY Favour Boxes.)