Join Bridalwave on Facebook for exclusive competitions and gossip

Debate: Asking for money

By admin on January 25th, 2007 5 comments

Money_3 This week, I’m wondering what people think about asking for money as a wedding gift, rather than having a registry or leaving things to fate? I know this is becoming an increasingly common thing to do, as more and more couples live together before marriage, and have all the towels and toasters they’ll ever need, but it’s something that’s still frowned upon by some people.

What do you think? Is it rude to ask for money rather than gifts? Would you be offended as a guest, if a request for money dropped out of your wedding invitation? Or is it just a sensible way to make sure people don’t waste their money on gifts you don’t need?

Single guests: with partners or without? | Debate: wearing black to a wedding | Honour and obey?

  • We’re having our registry at travel agency, but I’m sure most people will just give money anyway. We’ve been living together for 6 years now, and in a different country from our family, so any other kind of gift is just impractical!

    Also, you would never, never, ever send registry information (or bank account, or whatever) with your wedding invitations, so I don’t think that’s an issue 🙂 I don’t think it would be a problem telling people what you want when they ask (and if they are nice, polite guests, they will ask).

  • “Also, you would never, never, ever send registry information (or bank account, or whatever) with your wedding invitations, so I don’t think that’s an issue :)”

    Hmm, that’s interesting… Where we are, it’s actually really common for people to send registery information with the invitations. Most of the resistry companies actually send you little printed cards that you put inside the invitation to give people the details, or people add an information sheet with details of the registry.

  • arelya

    Yes our friends gave us registry info with the invitations and politely mentioned that they would actually prefer money. Most of my friends like myself live in this country on their own and asking for money is so understandable and acceptable.
    Here is another dilemma for you – do you have a wedding in your country, which means that most of your friends cannot attend or where you live, which means most family cannot be there, or do you have two weddings? Where to find money for two weddings? My head is going to explode aaargh!!!

  • Cultural differences, I guess! It’s really not done in Portugal, although everybody knows you have to give presents (and people will have absolutely ginourmous weddings to a)pay off favours, and b)get lots of presents). The guests will usually enquire to the parents of the bride or groom about gifts, not the couple themselves, to prevent embarrasement.

    We’re only inviting a couple of friends from the UK, so they’re flying out to the cerimony. European flights are really cheap anyway, and their attendance is their gift to us. Our family would disown us if we got married away from them! 🙂

  • Niki

    how do u politely ask for money? id like to know! hehe
    but i come frm malaysia and giving money is a norm, but the modern crowd seems to prefer giving presents.
    i dont mind gift vouchers either. dont need 16 coffee makers..

©2010 Shiny Digital Privacy Policy