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Debate: Wearing Black to a Wedding

By admin on January 2nd, 2007 6 comments

Dress Shocking confession coming up (or perhaps not, depending on your perspective): I often wear black to weddings. Actually, now that I come to think about it, I can recall only two wedding I didn’t wear black to – and one of those was when I was a seven year old flower girl.

Don’t get me wrong: I don’t go for the full-on funeral look (the black is always accessorised with colour. Trinny and Susannah would hate me), and I don’t do it to make any kind of statement – it just so happens that a lot of my favourite dresses are black, and it’s what I feel good in. And I always, always ask the bride if she minds before I wear it. So far, no one has, although I suspect I may just have been lucky, as there still seem to be a lot of people around who think it’s "bad form" or even bad luck to wear black to someone’s big day.

As a bride to be myself, I can honestly say that I don’t care what colours people wear to my wedding: just as long as no one turns up in a long, ivory wedding dress, I’m happy to let my guests dress as they please. (Although, that said, football strips, track suits and trainers would probably annoy me, but then, they annoy me anyway…). Actually, if I’d had adult bridesmaids, I’d probably have dressed them in black cocktail dresses for a classy, glamorous look. I’d draw the line a black wedding dress (the one up above is by The Wedding Wardrobe), but only because I don’t think it would suit me – they can look fantastic on other people.

So, what do you think? Will you be offended if any of your guests show up in black, or do you think the superstition has long since had its day?

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  • Fi

    I’ve often worn black to weddings too – again not to make a statement but just because it’s a colour I feel good in and find it easy to find clothes that I like in! Have never had any negative comments from anyone about it either, and cetainly will not mind if anyone wears black to my wedding

  • Dionne

    I am a bride and I am thinking about having an all black wedding. We considered asking all the guests to wear all black. I am in search of a solid black dress now. I know I will probly have to have it made, but it is what I want. It is my wedding and I should have the wedding of my dreams. Why can’t I have a black one?

  • LK

    An all-black wedding though?! *shaking head* But do what you want since you have to live with your “big day”, but don’t be surprised if other people will be surprised or frown upon it. Everybody has to wear black to a funeral because they _have_ to (out of respect) not because they want to.

  • Kimmie

    Why not ask everyone to wear black, it is your wedding and it sounds dramatic. I love it. My only advice is that Sarah Jessica Parker said she has one regret in life….it’s that she wore a black wedding dress. Enough said. You can white or ivory that way you stand out among all the black. That’s what I’m doing. We are the bride. We should be the center of attention. Have fun!

  • Kimmie

    Why not ask everyone to wear black, it is your wedding and it sounds dramatic. I love it. My only advice is that Sarah Jessica Parker said she has one regret in life….it’s that she wore a black wedding dress. Enough said. You can white or ivory that way you stand out among all the black. That’s what I’m doing. We are the bride. We should be the center of attention. Have fun!

  • k

    just a comment to completely throw people also as a bride to be, get married feb 7th 2009 i have actually purchased a black wedding dress n my fiance is wearin a white suit granted the mam in law int too happy bout it its something different n why should everyone get married in white or ivory i think its boring n besides neither suit me lol




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