This week we reached the stage of our wedding planning in which we have to finalise the exact format of the ceremony, and let the registrar know what kind of music we’re having, what the readings will be and – most importantly – which vows we’d like to make.
As we’re having a civil ceremony, there’s a lot of flexibility in the vows, and while there are some things that have to be included (the "just impediment" part of the ceremony, for instance) we can more or less have the rest however we want it. While we’ll be doing a little bit to tweaking to the rather dry vows which the registrar suggests, however, we’ve decided not to write our own vows. As I’m a writer, this surprised a few people, who had assumed we’d want complete control over what was said, but after a lot of thought, we’ve decided we’d probably feel too self-conscious reading out vows we’d written, and we’d rather keep those sentiments private.
What about everyone else? Will you be writing your own vows, and if so, why?