Amber McNaught’s new weekly column on just-married life…
Once you’ve walked down the aisle, drank too much champagne at the reception (or maybe that was just me?) and burned to a crisp on honeymoon (that would be me again), you may find yourself feeling a little bit… well, flat, really. The wedding is over. The honeymoon has been had. You will never again get to experience the joy that is getting married (not unless you’re a ‘sleb, of course, in which case, take heart – you’ll be doing it all again this time next year). It’s a little bit depressing, isn’t it?
Well, yes and no. I have to admit that every time I see my dress, still draped in its bag over the hall stairs, I feel just slightly melancholy. But after the wedding comes the start of married life. And what you will soon discover is that being a “newlywed” is a whole new experience in itself. And it is an experience that no one will ever let you forget.
“How’s married life treating you?” your friends and family will ask you when you get back from honeymoon. Get used to this question. You’ll be hearing it a lot , because your friends won’t just ask it the first time they see you after the wedding. No, they’ll ask it the next time they see you, too. And the time after that. I’m convinced people will still be asking how married life is “treating” me when I’m standing in the queue to collect my pension, in the same way that some people still ask me how I’m liking my new house, four years after I moved into it.
You see, no matter how hard you tried not to be the kind of bride who talks about her wedding obsessively for an entire year before it, a wedding is such a momentous occasion that people tend to assume that you’ll still want to talk about it obsessively a year later. (And who knows, maybe you will?) More specifically, they’ll want to talk about married life, and how it’s treating you, so you might want to have an answer prepared for this.
My answer? Well, it’s a tricky one. My husband and I had been living together for years before we got married, so, to be completely honest, the answer to the “how’s married life” question for us is “It’s exactly the same as non-married life. Like, exactly the same.” Nothing has changed in our daily routine. Sure, we have to remember to put on an extra piece of jewellery in the morning (ooh, the hardship!) but other than that, nothing has changed.
At the same time, though, things have changed, and it’s the little things that bring it home to you. The fact that Terry had to write my name under the “spouse” category when he went into hospital recently for a minor operation. The way I had to register myself as “married” when I signed up for Facebook last week. More than that, there are all of the little “wow, we’re married!” moments that creep up on you when you least expect them, and warm the cockles of your little heart. There’s a kind of “you and me against the world” feeling that’s become that bit stronger since the wedding. And, of course, there’s all the champagne people bought us as wedding presents to get through.
So, in short, married life is treating us just fine, thanks. And, over the next few weeks, I’ll be telling you all about it!
Amber McNaught is a freelance writer and regular Shiny contributor. She got married in March this year, and still hasn’t stopped talking about it.