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Newlyweds: With this ring I thee wed – but where is it?

By admin on July 2nd, 2007 0 comments yet. Be the First

withthisring.jpg Amber McNaught’s weekly column on newly married life

My husband is having problems remembering to wear his wedding ring. Oh, it’s not that he doesn’t want to wear it (or so he says, anyway) – it’s just that, as a man who’s never really worn jewellery, it’s a struggle to remember to put it on every morning. Given that he works from home, and rarely even wears a watch, I can kind of see his point.

The honeymoon was the worst period of non ring-wearing. Being newlyweds, I would wake up every morning and excitedly slip on my wedding ring. An hour or so later, I’d glance at my husband’s hand over the breakfast table and … no ring. A few times, his forgetfulness even caused all-out panic – like the time he went jet skiing and then couldn’t remember afterwards whether he’d been wearing his wedding ring and had lost it, or whether he’d just forgotten it. (It was the latter, needless to say. Luckily for him.)

These days, remembering the ring is getting a little bit easier. He will normally remember to wear it for “special occasions” where we’ll be seeing other people, but the rest of the time the ring will languish forgotten on the bedside table. I know he doesn’t “forget” it deliberately, but I have to admit, it does provide me with lots of opportunities to feel smug. “Oh, look!” I’ll say, gleefully, noticing his bare ring finger. “I’m more married than you again!”

Of course, it’s easier for me to remember to put on my wedding ring in the morning. I’ve been wearing my engagement ring for years now, so it’s become part of my daily routine. No matter how hard Terry tries to make it part of his, though, the ring remains off more often than it’s on, and the situation doesn’t seem likely to change anytime soon. Leaving the ring next to hi swatch? Well, he doesn’t always wear his watch, so that doesn’t work too well. Leaving it next to the coffee/shower gel/food/his clothes? He’ll think, “Oh yes, I’ll put that on in a minute” – then he’ll wander off and forget about it. Oh yes, when it comes to remembering my wedding ring, I am far, far superior…

Despite the teasing, though, I have to admit that there is something nice about seeing him wearing his wedding ring. It serves as a nice reminder of the wedding (and our marriage) and I think it looks rather nice on his finger, too. If only I could get him to actually wear it…

Amber McNaught is a freelance writer and regular Shiny contributor. She’s wearing her wedding ring right now. Her husband isn’t…

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