Amber McNaught writes…
I’m suffering a severe case of wedding envy.
Last week, two of our friends announced their engagement. The engagement party is next week, and while Terry and I are really looking forward to celebrating with the couple, there’s a little part of me which is, not to put too fine a point on it – jealous. Yes, the green-eyed wedding monster has arisen, and as we listen to our friends talk about their plans for their wedding, I can’t help heaving a little sigh and thinking, “I wish it was me! Again.”
In my case, of course, this bout of envy is pretty silly. I’ve only been married for six months myself. People are still asking how married life is “treating” us, and asking to see the wedding photos. (OK, so sometimes they don’t actually ask. Sometimes we just get them out anyway and bore people to tears with them. Note to self: must stop doing that). I’ve had my wedding, but the sad truth of the matter is… I’d quite like to have another one. You know, if that was at all possible.
It’s not that I’d do anything different, either. No, we spent lots of time planning our wedding, and everything happened the way we wanted it. So I don’t particularly want to make any changes to our day – I just want to do it all again. As you plan a wedding, you find that lots of people tell you to “Enjoy it! Make the most of the planning stage, because all too soon it’ll be over!” That’s one of those things that’s easy to say and not so easy to do, though. Pretty soon you find yourself embroiled in debates about the guest list and the favours, and before you know what hit you, it’s all over, and you’re wishing you’d actually taken that advice to slow down and savour it all.
So, this is the advice I’ll be giving to our friends. Cliched and obvious it may well be, but it’s true: enjoy it. Even the debates about the guest list and the favours. You’ll thank yourself for it later.