Once upon a time, before you even got to the point of picking out a wedding dress, you actually had to find the right person to marry. In today’s high-pressure, time-poor society that is no easy feat. Many of my single friends ask me where all the good men are as if there is some hiding place where the nice ones are stashed, and I just don’t know. I suspect men might be wondering where all the good women are too. So what does a person do when s/he wants to settle down but doesn’t have the other half? Enter Asian marriage broker Aneela Rahman who in a new BBC2 series is applying Asian marriage brokering techniques to Western clients.
The idea is quite simple. Every woman has relatives and friends and each of these people know single men and other people who also know single men. For some of us that might sound like matchmaking hell, but if you’re on the look out for a potential mate and can’t find one, you may as well accept some help and let your friends and family choose one for you, or, at the very least, suggest a person.
I think as we all know, what we’d quite like and what our mums would like for us are two completely different things which is the first hurdle. Then there’s the plundering of the potential partner’s life something, we, as a nation, aren’t that good at doing – questions including what does he earn? Is he looking for a wife?
During the two episodes screened so far, the method has only partially worked. The ladies have found themselves liking the men they were introduced to and both went on to date a man for a couple of months following the introduction. However that’s where it ended. Does that show success? In one sense, yes, because the ladies got to met men they wouldn’t have normally met in their social lives but they didn’t get the marriage.
Did you meet via friends and family? Would you like your circle to introduce you to more people? And do you think arranged (not forced, note) marriages can work? Discuss in the comments.
Arrange me a Marriage airs on BBC2 on Thursdays at 8pm.