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Smug Married: Happy Anniversary

By admin on February 21st, 2008 0 comments yet. Be the First

me.jpgKeris Stainton‘s fortnightly column on married life…

In my last column I mentioned that my and David’s 12th wedding anniversary was coming up. It’s actually on the 12th February so we don’t bother with Valentine’s Day. Incidentally, the 12th Feb is not only the date we met, it’s the date we started going out together (one year later) and the date we got married (one year after that). David has only one “important” date to remember and it’s so close to Valentine’s Day he’s unlikely to forget. He doesn’t know how lucky he is.

So anyway, the proximity to everyone else’s romantic day means that a) our wedding flowers were overpriced, b) if we want to go out for an anniversary meal, we need to book well in advance, c) we’re unlikely to ever go away for our anniversary since anything resembling a romantic mini break will have been marked up by at least 25% for the best part of February and d) every year everyone asks us what we’re doing/have done for Valentine’s Day and we always have to explain why the answer is nothing.


The day after our anniversary, David texted me to announced that, the previous day, the local council had demolished the place we “got together”. Yep, they demolished our special place on our anniversary. I mean, I knew it was coming down, but the timing’s a bit ominous, no? Particularly in combination with the fact that the register office we got married in is also due for demolition. Bet the wrecking ball’s due to smash through that one 12 Feb 2009…

But actually, the fact that these buildings are coming down gives me a funny kind of thrill. Not just because they were really ugly buildings, but because it means our marriage has actually outlasted bricks and mortar! Since I feel about 15 and like I’ve been married about five minutes (despite having an almost four-year-old son), this blows my mind.

As does the fact that all the other couples we know who got married before us split up ages ago. Most of them have remarried. And yet we’re not just still together, but we’re still really happy.

I’m sorry if I sound smug. But the clue *is* in the title of this column…

Keris edits Shiny Media’s fabulous women’s fiction blog, Trashionista and contributes to TV Scoop and The Bag Lady.




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