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The Bachelorette Party and The Hen Do: why I just don’t *get* it

By admin on May 20th, 2008 4 comments

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Dollymix editor Cate asks why does marriage have to be the opposite of ‘freedom’ for so many people?

Spring equals wedding season, so I feel like I’ve been on a bit of an anti-traditional wedding tirade. I’ve said it once, and I’ll say it again. I don’t hate people who love traditional weddings, I simply can’t stand people who judge others for not hopping on the overly expensive wedding bandwagon. One of the main things I don’t get about the traditional wedding are the concepts of the bachelorette/hen and stag/bachelor parties. The attitude of “WOOO! LAST NIGHT OF FREEDOM!” just seems sort of sad. Why does marriage have to be the opposite of ‘freedom’ for so many people?


A lot of people’s reasoning for having a bachelorette party just doesn’t seem genuine to me. I’ve been to a killer bachelorette party where all we did was go dancing in gay clubs and act like morons and we had the best time. However, if I were made to wear a pink cowboy hat, forced to buy The Bridezilla pina coladas while she got lap dances from some greasy stripper or coerced into taking stripe tease classes, I would probably walk out mid-party.

I just don’t understand the fascination around them. Can’t you go out with your friends and celebrate your approaching wedding without making them wearing stupid hats or be forced to buy you a stripper? How did the idea of spending some time with your female friends and family, sans men, turn into a debate over strip teasing classes?

Do what you want. Do what you and your friends are comfortable with – but really, if you’re looking at your bachelorette party as a way to have fun on your “last night” of being “single”, you should probably reexamine why you want to get married in the first place.

Same goes for you, boys. Don’t even get me started on you bachelor party traditions.

Cate Sevilla is the Editor of Dollymix. She didn’t have a hen do.

  • Pauline

    I totally agree with you Cate. I don’t see my hen weekend as any of that, especially NOT my ‘last night of freedom’! I love my fiance and can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him! I see it as a girly weekend away with my closest friends and family to have fun without the men and bond. There will be no sashes, hats, or stippers! it’ll be more ‘sex and the city’ than ‘girls aloud’ for us, stylish and classy.

  • Pauline

    I totally agree with you Cate. I don’t see my hen weekend as any of that, especially NOT my ‘last night of freedom’! I love my fiance and can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him! I see it as a girly weekend away with my closest friends and family to have fun without the men and bond. There will be no sashes, hats, or stippers! it’ll be more ‘sex and the city’ than ‘girls aloud’ for us, stylish and classy.

  • Pauline

    I totally agree with you Cate. I don’t see my hen weekend as any of that, especially NOT my ‘last night of freedom’! I love my fiance and can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him! I see it as a girly weekend away with my closest friends and family to have fun without the men and bond. There will be no sashes, hats, or stippers! it’ll be more ‘sex and the city’ than ‘girls aloud’ for us, stylish and classy.

  • pauline

    I totally agree with you Cate. I don’t see my hen weekend as any of that, especially NOT my ‘last night of freedom’! I love my fiance and can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him! I see it as a girly weekend away with my closest friends and family to have fun without the men and bond. There will be no sashes, hats, or stippers! it’ll be more ‘sex and the city’ than ‘girls aloud’ for us, stylish and classy.




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