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Wedding guest list nightmares – who to invite? Not Sarah Ferguson for one!

By Elisabeth Edvardsen on May 12th, 2011 0 comments yet. Be the First

Photo: AP Photo/Seth Wenig

If you’ve ever tried to put together a guest list for a wedding – or any major event for that matter – you know what nightmare it can be, even if you don’t have many frenemies or awkward old uncles that can’t hold their drink. But who do you invite and what do you say to those that don’t make the list?

Last night, Sarah Ferguson (the former wife of Prince Andrew, mother of Princesses Beatrice and Eugenie and aunt-through-marriage to Prince William) spoke for the first time about her disappointment of not being invited to Prince William and Kate Middleton’s royal wedding. Her chosen platform. Oprah of course. Where else would it be better to share a royal sob story than on the show of the queen of US talk shows…

Fergie, as most people know her as, spoke of the rejection being “so difficult, because I wanted to be there with my girls… to be getting them dressed and to go as a family.”

Errr… Why the sad face Fergie? You are the ex-aunt of the newlywed Prince William, and while you might be the mother of his cousins you also tried to sell stories about your ex-husband to the press – and got caught might I add. You don’t think Queenie liked that stunt do you? She probably put her royal foot down and grandson Wills agreed.

So William choose not to invite his not so media shy ex-aunt – giving her yet another sob story to head to the media with – and celebrate his and Kate’s wedding ceremony with 1,900 others. But what I want to know is: how do YOU decide who to invite to YOUR wedding?

Whenever I hear someone talking about a ‘small, intimate ceremony’ I always ask, “So how many have you invited then?” And more often than not, the number is far greater than what I would personally classify as a small event.

Usually what happens is that the happy couple start by inviting their nearest family – parents, siblings with their other halves and offspring, grannies and so on – and then closest friends. But before they know it, Ben from accounting has got an invite because he helped them with a tax return four years ago and they’re finding themselves adding names left, right and centre.

I’m not going to tell you who you can and cannot invite to your own wedding – that would just be cruel and conceited – but I’m curious about how you’re handling the guest list. Just close friends and family or as many as the church/reception room can fit?

Guess the rule is – unless you are the royal couple – to really think about who you want to share this special, emotional and very private moment with… Will you remember Ben in ten years’ time?

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