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Reconciling with estranged family members ahead of your wedding

By Elisabeth Edvardsen on June 6th, 2011 0 comments yet. Be the First

Relationships are never easy. It is a constant process of give and take, keeping the balance right. One wrong turn at it can all go a bit sour. Now I’m not only talking about relationships between two partners, but also family relationships.

It is seemingly easy to fall out and then be too stubborn to not speak to each other for a while. And as time passes it becomes more and more difficult to pick up the phone and talk things through.

Former Oasis star Noel Gallagher famously had a huge bust-up with his brother Liam in 2009 and haven’t spoken since. However, now that Noel is getting married he’s extending an olive branch to his sibling.

Despite calling Liam a “tit” – hey it’s rock ‘n’ roll – Noel spoke about his brother during his London pub crawl stag do (that sounds like fun!) and admitted that he would want him there.

Weddings are a time of celebration, where friends and family come together to celebrate the happy couple, so even if ill words have been spoken it could be a good time to reconnect a relationship that has dwindled.

That said, you do not want to invite that person if you think he or she will cause a scene and ruin what is meant to be the happiest day of your life. If you believe they can’t bury the hatchet for one day, then it is best to not issue an invite and instead send them a card to express your sentiments and tell them you hope you can meet some other time. This way you haven’t ignored them completely, you’ve reached out in an attempt to reconcile and you can continue with your wedding planning – and most importantly, if you’re remotely interested in patching things up you haven’t made it worse. But the best thing would of course be to invite them to you wedding.

Have you had this dilemma? What did you end up doing?

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