Debates, Feature

Should you have Children At Weddings? – Some Tips to entertain kids

By Debs Cass on July 18th, 2013

The much debated question whether or not to invite children to your wedding is forever prevalent. Whether you’re in the ‘aw, they’re so cute’ camp – or more the ‘keep-‘em-away-from-my-DRESS!’ variety, the chances are there maybe some kids at your wedding and whether they’re nieces, nephews, cousins or your own children, it’s generally a good idea to include in your plans some ideas to keep them (- and thereby everyone) happy during your ceremony and reception.

Incorporating yet more into your plans needn’t result in adding much more to the bottom line of your wedding budget, as ideas stretch from the cheap and cheerful to the full-on every kids cinderella dream.

Here’s some top tips for you to consider to prevent a Lord of the Flies situation at your wedding!

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If you have kids yourself, you’ll know how important it is to schedule in naps, regular feeding and time for ‘letting off-steam’. Kids don’t always go with the flow, no matter how fine-tuned your plans are for your wedding day: Your smaller guests won’t obligingly go along with the hour long photo call if certain requirements of their own aren’t met. With this in mind, it’s best to give parents an overview of the days plans, so that they can work out the best way to manage their kids needs - and not upstage your day when lunch isn’t served as expected. Wedding Invites - by Bride & Groom Direct brideandgroomdirect

Celebrity Weddings, Debates

Big wedding or eloping? What would you choose if you could do it all again?

By Elisabeth Edvardsen on October 5th, 2011

Might be shooting ourselves in the foot by writing about this topic as without all you lovely brides looking for inspiration we wouldn’t have anyone to write for.

A big wedding as you know requires a wedding dress, a guest list, a wedding cake, the best man and a maid of honour among many, many things. Eloping on the other hand requires… well a bride and a groom. No need for a big dress (unless you really want one), no nightmares about who is sitting next to whom, who cares about the cake as you’re the only one there…

But with news that Kim Kardashian would elope if she could have her wedding again we have to ask: what would you choose if you could do it all again?

The 30-year-old socialite – who famously went all out when she married basketball star Kris Humphries in a lavish ceremony in August – has admitted she found her nuptials “so stressful” that she would actually run off to another country to tie the knot without any guests if she had the chance to do it again.

So, is planning a wedding the most nerve-racking thing you have done – or are doing – or are you finding it a breeze? And what would you do differently if you could?


Debates, News

Are church weddings making a comeback?

By Elisabeth Edvardsen on July 8th, 2011

With several high-profile UK celebrities opting for a church wedding this year: Kate Middleton (no other choice really when your grandmother-in-law is head of the CoE), Lily Allen and most recently Kate Moss, we’re wondering if the trend of jetting abroad for your nuptials or choosing a field in the middle of nowhere to say “I do” is becoming passé and more traditional church weddings are making a return?

While the number of Brits getting married might be on an all-time low since recordings began, it appears that many couples are increasingly choosing to say their vows in a church. If this is a sign of the recent recession – have we become more religious as a result, or if people are doing it to please older family members who believe the House of God is the only place to enter such a union we don’t know. It could also be that the happy couples just feel it’s right.

Then again, in spite of the celebs heading to the CoE for their blessings, could the news that the basic fee for an Anglican ceremony might be increased by 50% from £284 to £425 put brides and grooms to be off the idea of a traditional church wedding? Remember this is before music and flowers for the ceremony is taken into account, so in reality the bill could come in several hundred pounds higher. Or is it a small price to pay for the overall experience?

Let us know your thoughts on the matter in the comments below.

Debates, News, Yay or Nay?

Pre-nup legislation set to end divorce wars

By Elisabeth Edvardsen on January 5th, 2011

Marriage is, and should be, all about love. Saying “I do, but only if you sign on the dotted line” isn’t particularly romantic,but no-one will judge you for wanting to protect your assets in case something goes wrong.

Pre-nups have become increasingly common in Britain, but are currently not protected by legislation. After a series of high-profile divorce cases where pre-nups have been challenged in the courts, changes may be just around the corner. The new legislation would also be valid for any deals signed after you’re married.

By signing a pre-nup you are entitled to hold on to savings, homes and any other assets that you have when entering the marriage. Personally I don’t think signing a pre-nup encourages any marriage to fail; it’s about being savvy and realistic. After all, he should love you for you and not your money. I’m sure Miss Catherine Middleton has to sign a pre-nup ahead of her marriage to Prince William. The Queen wouldn’t want Kate to get half of the kingdom if it didn’t end happily ever after, would she?

What do you think about pre-nups – is it a deal breaker?



What’s so crazy about a man changing his name?

By admin on August 29th, 2008

myddleton81808.jpgI’m not wild about wives taking their husbands’ surname (yes, I did it, but I was young and didn’t know any better), so I was interested to read this story on Jezebel about Kris Dyer who decided to take his wife’s surname, rather than asking her to take his.

What surprised me – and Mr Myddleton nee Dyer – was how his friends reacted: “I always considered my friends to be pretty metropolitan, but they too seemed to have problems coming to terms with it. They thought I was joking; eventually I had to show them my new bank cards to get them to believe me. They kept asking ‘Why?’ People seemed vaguely disapproving, as if we were breaking a sacred rule.”

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Columns/ Opinion, Dating & Relationships, Debates

Should parents of the wedding couple meet before or after the engagement?

By Alex Roumbas on May 16th, 2008

meet_the_fockers_front.jpgI know this seems like a strange subject to revisit during the wedding planning, but I’ve got to assume that some people are reading Bridalwave who aren’t quite engaged yet – I know I did. The other night we had a first for our relationship: our parents met each other, around a month after the big question.

Everyone I speak to has a different reaction to the fact that our parents did not meet until after we were engaged.

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Bridesmaids & Attendants, Columns/ Opinion, Debates, Wedding Planning

Should your bridesmaid sign a contract so you get the perfect attendant?

By admin on February 4th, 2008

bride.JPGI’m sure many of you know a bride who has strategically chosen her bridesmaids perhaps because they would look elegant in the pictures or due to family politics… and you will also probably know someone who has picked her bridesmaids only to find one will now be heavily pregnant on the big day or taken to dying her hair shocking pink. So, what do you do? Some brides, apparently, would go as far as asking their attendants to sign a contract agreeing not to have a drastic haircut, get pregnant or even put on weight in the run up to the big day.

Whilst I’ve no doubt there are a few nodding heads thinking ‘about time’, isn’t it a bit rich to interfere so much in someone else’s life for the sake of your party?

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Columns/ Opinion, Debates, Wedding Planning

Sponsored weddings: tacky or triumphant?

By admin on September 4th, 2007

pounds.JPGWe all know that the average wedding costs £17,000 but I’ll make a guess that many of you don’t have that kind of money floating around (I know I don’t) and so will happily spend much less and keep the big cash for a house deposit or similar. But what about the brides who don’t have the money, don’t want the debt and still want a big wedding? Is a sponsored wedding the way to go?

According to bride Brook Breitenkamp and fiancé Chris Carlsen, who got the idea from US’ Modern Bride magazine, it is. They had originally planned a small wedding in keeping with their budget but turned to the idea of a sponsored wedding. And what is one of those precisely? Simply, a company will foot the bill for an item of your wedding or provide it at a discount and in return they can advertise to your guests. In Breitenkamp and Carlsen’s case they’re offering advertising space on their wedding website, an ad in their programme given to guests on the day and will invite a company rep to mingle with guests.

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Debates, Groom, Rings & Jewellery

Would your man wear a diamond ring?

By admin on August 30th, 2007

diamondgroom.JPGA wedding ring for a man is still a tradition that is not to be taken for granted, so if your hubby-to-be has made that decision, just how decorated would he go? This interesting ring designed by Jeff Cooper has something really beautiful about it. The image really attracts me, I love the way the matt platinum cog style is really very masculine, but the diamonds prevent it from being run of the mill.

So is this too blinging? A little bit too Beckham for your man? Or perhaps just a debonair addition to an already well groomed groom? Available in the US from Michael C Fina.

Related: Debates – wearing rings | Would you wear a wooden ring?

Debates, Shoes

Would you wear Crocs to your wedding?

By admin on August 15th, 2007

crocs.jpgAlthough Shoewawa readers would probably argue that Crocs shouldn’t be worn anywhere, never mind to a wedding, I’m noticing a growing trend for brides to wear the plastic gardening shoes under their gowns. “They’re comfortable!” they argue. “And they’re fun!” Well, maybe – but my tatty old slippers are comfortable, and I wouldn’t wear them to a wedding either!

What do you think of this trend? Do you think a pair of white, pearlised Crocs could be just the thing to slip on under your wedding dress, or will you be sticking to the more traditional wedding shoes – even if they’re a little less comfortable?

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Books/ DVDs/ Online/ TV, Debates

Would you go in to a radio competition to choose your husband?

By admin on August 13th, 2007

choosingbride.jpg Tragically this title does actually refer to a real life radio competition about to start in New Zealand today. It could be a ‘Blind Date’ affair, but they appear to have taken it a step further in a twist on a (sometimes controversial) tradition, this is arranged marriage for the sake of ratings.

The Edge radio station will launch their ‘Three Strangers and a Wedding’ competition whereby a bride will meet two men at the altar, and then have to choose between them, before marrying the chosen one. They have done this before with a ‘marrying a stranger’ competition, where the brides friends and family choose a suitable beau for their friend (the same will happen here), and 8 and 4 years later, both couples are still married and with children. But surely this is a step too far?

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Name Changing Kit from name2name

By admin on August 2nd, 2007

name2name.jpg If you’re still thinking about the whole name changing thing, and perhaps feeling like it will all be a big hassle, as with pretty much everything else to do with weddings, there’s a website to help. Name2name has taken on this daunting task and made it a whole lot easier.

Purchase one of their kits (valid in England, Wales, Scotland and Ireland) and you’ll be provided with a cd containing checklists and letter templates, including info for grooms wishing to go double-barrelled. With the ID card set to come in as law in 2009, and fines of up to £1000 for out of date documents, this is one kit worth investing in, £19.99

Related: US Based Name Change Kit | His & Hers Surnames debate


Is religion still a part of modern weddings: should secular couples choose Humanism?

By admin on August 2nd, 2007

humanist_wedding_203_203x152.jpg While weddings were originally a religious ceremony designed to show commitment to your spouse and to your god or chosen religion, it has grown into something much more egotistical and centres around the couple moreso than ever. So, if the religion has gone out of your life is it truly ethical to allow it a place in your wedding and your marriage?

Having attended many Christian weddings I have often internally remarked upon the hypocrisy of many couples choosing to ‘marry before God’ only to live a secular life after that union. This is the reason many modern and ethically conscious couples are opting for a Humanist union.

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Debates, Stationery

Would you send your wedding invitations by email?

By admin on July 27th, 2007

fb21-ruby-invitation.jpg Choosing the stationery for your wedding invitations is a key part of your wedding planning, and many brides and grooms will spend hours searching for just the right stationery.

How would you feel about doing away with the stationery altogether, though, and simply sending out an email to invite guests to your wedding? That’s what Waste Awareness Wales would like to see more people doing, saying that it’s just one way to help minimise the environmental impact of a wedding. Wedding and etiquette experts, meanwhile have hit back, arguing that some of the measures proposed “damped the tradition” of the big day.

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Would you dare to wear a mini on your wedding day?

By admin on July 26th, 2007

karen1006513149_201x396.jpg Yoko Ono did it, but would you dare to match her kooky sixties style and get wed in a mini? I’m a huge fan of vintage fashion and think this Karen Zambos dress is fantastic, but do you think it could be wedding fare for anyone?

A daring bride it would certainly take but if you’re a mini lover and have the legs to carry this off this dress would look fantastic for an informal wedding or blessing. Do you think it’s inappropriate or fantastic? If you’re daring to be a vintage bride who’s so casual you can buy this beautiful ivory mini dress from Shopbop for $324.

Related: Iconic brides: Yoko Ono

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