Debates

Debates #9 – Who will walk you down the aisle?

By admin on August 16th, 2006

Last week I asked you if you should buy your bridesmaid’s dress or if she should bear the cost. It’s all down to the cost and your manners it seems. Don’t lumber the bridesmaid with a huge purchase price for a dress that she may not like and may only wear the once – it it isn’t fair.

This week’s question is how important is it for a family member to walk you down the aisle? Will you only consider your dad or will another male relative step in? Or will you ask a woman, perhaps your mother to do the honours. Maybe even a close friend that you value?

Or are you going it alone? Comments are welcome (you don’t even have to fill in your real name and email if you would prefer to do it anonymously!)

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Bridesmaids & Attendants, Debates, Wedding Etiquette

Debates #8 – Should you buy the Bridesmaid’s Dress?

By admin on August 9th, 2006

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Picture this scene – you’ve planned your day to the nth degree, you’ve asked your favourite gal pals or relatives to be your bridesmaids. They are delighted of course and happy to be part of your entourage. You chose the colour and style of the dresses and then you stick them with the bill. Is this fair? Should your bridesmaids bear the cost of the outfits that you picked out and they will only wear once? Or should you picck up the tab and add it to your growing budget?

Take a few minutes to leave a comment and let us all know what you think!

Related : Past debates

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Debates, Groom, Wedding Planning

Debates #7 – Should the groom be involved with planning?

By admin on August 2nd, 2006

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It seems eloping bothers you lot not a jot. Rosie mentioned seeing an assembly line of couples waiting to tie the knot when she was abroad and also mentioned the pleasure of having family on holiday with you. Both thoughts have put me right off!

So, here’s this weeks debate – how far should the groom get involved with planning? Being that many men haven’t evolved much from their Neandertholic ancestors and can barely make it round a shop without sobbing that they need a gameboy to play with, can we really expect them to get involved to the nth degree in colour schemes and seating arrangements? On the other hand, it is their wedding too and shouldn’t they have some input? Having said that, they did propose (and hopefully in a romantic, unexpected way) and should we just be thankful that they remember to turn up on the day?

So much to think about, so little time, but tell me your thoughts anyway!

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Debates

Debates – Eloping

By admin on July 26th, 2006

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I’m glad to see in last week’s debate that you will happily wear whatever colour you please to at your wedding. No traditional showing of purity for you!

This week’s debate centres on eloping. These days it seems to be termed ‘destination wedding’ which gives the couple the option of either inviting or escaping from friends and family. But imagine you were to dissapear off on holiday, just the two of you and got married at the same time? Have you deprived your family of the chance of seeing you get married and does that make you horribly selfish? Should you have a wedding with everyone there if you don’t want that just so they can be there?

I know that’s a lot of thoughts so I’ll open up the floor to you. What do you think of eloping?

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Debates

Debates – should you wear white?

By admin on July 19th, 2006

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Wearing white bridalwear is a long running symbol for purity and virginity, signifying that you haven’t been up to naughties before your wedding day. We’ll ignore that the white dress also stood for enormous wealth at the time of Queen Victoria who pioneered the trend in 1840. Of course, these days it’s more than likely that brides have sampled the ‘goods’ before committing to buy.

So should brides still wear white?

Is it an old, antiquated tradition that nobody seriously believes in anymore… otherwise most of us would be in scarlet?! Or should you only wear white if you’ve waited? What do you think?

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Debates

Debates – money

By admin on July 12th, 2006

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It’s good to see that you’ve got strong opinions on the wearing of wedding rings. To paraphrase MacKenzie, a ring is a standard and easily recognised token of marriage. However if you do work with dead fish you can be reasonably let off…

So this week I’m talking about money. Cash, dough, lolly, filthy lucre. Brits have a wierd aversion to talking about money but not today! One of our fellow wedding bloggers was recently lambasted for talking honestly about how much she was spending on her wedding and whilst I didn’t see the exact figure, it’s certainly more her business than mine! Bearing in mind that the average wedding costs £17,000 in the UK and the cheapest is the bus fare to the registry office and the licence fee (less than £50 I think) how much is reasonable to spend on a wedding?

Here’s some options to get you started –
1. No debt for me! – Under £5000/ $9000?
2. I don’t want to compromise on a lovely day – £10,000/ $18,000?
3. My day is worth paying extra for – £15,000/ $27,000?
4. You only do it once, right?! £20,000/ $36,000 plus?

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Debates

Debates – Wearing rings?

By admin on July 5th, 2006

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It seems you care not about cake but hopefully we’ll get a proper debate going this week. This week’s discussion centres around a conversation I had with my other half a few days ago as we talked about wedding rings and what did I like. I asked him if he would wear a wedding ring and he pointed out that men from his culture didn’t.

So I ask you – are wedding rings that important and if you’re married, should you wear one? Or would you not wear a ring and expect your partner to be happy about it? What do you think?

Related: Our debates so far

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Celebrity Weddings, Debates

Join the debate – can you justify spending hundreds of pounds on a cake?

By admin on June 28th, 2006

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Cake_trump Last week’s debate got us off to a good start, didn’t it? I think we’re fairly clear on the kid situation. It’s your wedding and you should be able to invite who you like and your guests should respect that. However, a little understanding on both sides really helps! Just make your wishes clear from the outset.

And now on to this week’s debate for your divine wisdom. Lets talk about wedding cakes. Can you justify spending hundreds of pounds on a cake? It may be a sculptural masterpiece, handpainted and adorned with exquisite handcrafted flowers, but at the end of the day, it is a cake. Is it important to have a specially designed cake as the centre piece of your reception or can you justify it by dishing it up as dessert?

One can only imagine how much this cake cost Melania and Donald Trump. My slice seems to have gotten lost in the mail…

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Debates

Join the debate – Should kids be invited?

By admin on June 21st, 2006

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We thought it was about time that we got some debates going on Bridalwave – things that have been bothering you and a bazillion other couples and we’d love to know your thoughts. We all know that you can’t please everyone you invite to your wedding and goodness knows someone will find cause to moan about something. But what about the people you don’t invite? The little people?

One of our readers asked what she should do about kids at her wedding, or more specifically, how does she go about not having them there? She already has a couple of littlies in her bridal party but wants to keep the affair upscale rather than having over a dozen tots screaming and running around pelting each other with cake. Tentatively mentioning this to guests with kids she got a fairly frosty reception…

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Books/ DVDs/ Online/ TV, Debates, Travel

Send us on honeymoon (aka the lengths some people will go to)

By admin on June 19th, 2006

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Most couples are usually more than grateful to accept a helping hand from relatives to fund their wedding. And if that dream honeymoon seems a little out of their budget, they may choose to scrimp on other details to have more cash to splash out on a dream destination. But not one English couple.

Wayne and Lyn, from the North West, are asking strangers to give them cash. The couple who have been together for over 13 years (and apparently not learnt to save during this time) hope to raise around £5000 to spend on a honeymoon.

Uneasy about asking friends and family to help out (yet not strangers) and burdened with a heavy mortgage (aren’t we all?) and loans, Wayne thought of the bright idea to sell words and links on a website for cash (that hasn’t been done before has it?)…

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