From what I hear from past Best Men, the toast is the most nerve wracking and stressful thing ever. How long should it be? Should you include that crude but hilarious anecdote? If you do, will the bride kill you? Should it be funny? Or should it be sentimental? So. Many. Questions.

If you're having a hard time with yours, you might like this amazingly useful website, where you can generate a pre-written toast with just a few clicks. I had a go myself in the name of research and I think Gertrude and Bob will be very happy with what I ended up with. It may be lazy, but hey it works!

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It may seem like a trivial concern, but for many couples, from the first awkward steps of a relationship to engagement, marriage and beyond, questions arise on how and when to change the all important Facebook status - a decision that didn't exist a cople of years ago - frequently leading to heated arguments and in one case almost to divorce and/or death.

Lauren Booth, sister of Cherie Blair, found this out the hard way when she changed her Facebook status from 'married' to 'single' in a fit of pique; only to have a blazing row with her husband who then stormed off and crashed his motorbike, presumably while still suffering the effects of 'red mist'. He's since come out of a coma and the couple have reunited, but it certainly brings home the significance of that one little mouse-click.

Have you chosen to share your relationship details with Facebook, or do you find it simpler just to assume that your friends know you're with that guy who keeps turning up on your arm? Let us know in comments, and read on for some tips...

It's pretty unusual these days to get married before you've reached the adult milestones of purchasing your first kettle or toaster, so in many ways the traditional 'gift list' is becoming obsolete. Nowadays, couples are far more likely to be seeking to reduce clutter than accumulate more knick-knacks, and at a time when money's tight for a lot of people it can seem a bit unfair to ask your guests to buy objects they may not really be able to afford for the sake of tradition.

That said, family members in particular may want to buy you a gift come hell, high water or recession, so what can you do if you want genuinely useful presents that won't end up clogging up the loft? There are some great suggestions here on gifts that help the planet, setting up honeymoon funds and even how to persuade your well-meaning guests that you really don't want presents...

The highlight of a Jewish wedding is the breaking of a glass by the groom, with the guests wishing the couple luck by shouting "Mozel Tov!" Rather than placing the glass in a cloth you can purchase this satin pouch with a glass wrapped inside a bubble bag then sewn into the pouch. After the glass is smashed the shards will remain safely inside to be kept as a memento. Priced $30 from Exclusively Weddings , and for an extra $8 you can have the names of the bride and groom and the date of the wedding embroidered on the bag.

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Until 1884, in England, a woman was officially listed as one of her husband's possessions. How times have changed! H. Samuel have just become the first chain in the country to sell engagement rings exclusively for men. The ring available from the H. Samuel website, is called the "Tioro" - a chunky titanium band set with a subtle diamond. Although popular in parts of Scandinavia and Basque regions of Spain they have (until now) been are a rare sight in Britain.

The retailer believes the demand for a male engagement ring is partly down to equality with more women than ever proposing to their fellas, as well as being a clear symbol that the man is "off the market"! As H. Samuel's buying controller Natasha Gregory explains, "the men's engagement ring is a clear message to everyone that the man is going to be married and also works perfectly for civil partnerships". Interestingly she goes on to say "over 60% of our customers think it's a good idea for women to ask men to marry them." Really?! Maybe I'm just a bit old fashioned but I'm not sure I'd want to be the one asking. What's your verdict? Tell us in the poll below!

Related: Joolia men's wedding ring with Roman numeral engraving, men's wedding rings at Scott Kay, more rings and jewellery here.

I'm a sucker for tradition - and this lovely garter charm, £6 from Princess Polly Tiaras, is the ideal way to represent your "something blue". It's made with a blue Swarovski crystal heart surrounded by sparkling aurora borealis crystals.

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You may blame my vintage fashion obsession, but I absolutely adore formal gloves. Unfortunately there's not many occasions to wear them, but if there ever was one it's certainly on your wedding day. These formal satin long gloves from Charms Bridalwear are every bit the Hollywood starlet, and would set off any strapless or sleeveless gown to perfection.

Perfect for the coming cold months, they're a great accessory that's both practical and pretty. If, like I was, you're wondering about the etiquette during the ceremony, then check out Wedding Chaos' fantastic guide. It includes quite a few tips for flirting with them too (honest!). This pair costs just £17.99 from Charms online.

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An acquaintance posed this very question recently and her responses where many and varied. Some considered it the couple's absolute right to withdraw an invitation if offence had been caused or frankly whatever reason they liked. Others thought an invitation is set in stone once it has been sent and that it's simply bad manners to withdraw it. What do you think?

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Did you hear about the charming vicar who banished the wedding couple's own toddler from the ceremony as apparently he was being too fussy? (The toddler that is, though one could argue it was the vicar who was the fussy one). There's no punchline and the poor couple were understandandly upset. Though many couples won't be planning on having children at their ceremony, there will be many more who already have their own children. But is a wedding ceremony any place for a child? Take your vote!

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Who to invite is always tricky. Having a smaller wedding can make you ruthless with a guest list whilst a large venue may inspire you to invite all and sundry, especially if you're feeling pressure from relatives and colleagues. The latter can pose problems all of its own. Should you, would you and could you invite or leave out your boss? Will they consider it a snub after hiring you and nurturing your career - even if they haven't really - or will they understand?

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Keris recently looked at whether gift giving is optional or not. I've always bought a gift when attending but haven't sent one when I've turned down an invite regardless of the reason for doing so. And I've always bought something from the gift list as that is what, I assume, the couple would really like. Gift giving and requesting is still somewhat of an etiquette mindfield though, isn't it?

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I've been sitting here reading InStyle Weddings and a question on the Etiquette pages startled me. The question is: "How should we deal with guests who don't give a gift?"

I must admit, my first thought was a sarcastic, "Oh humiliate them in front of everyone", but when I read the answer - send a letter thanking them for their attendance, which should then alert them that they haven't yet sent a gift - I realised that this is a serious concern. For some. It wasn't for me. I can honestly say that I had no list, mental or otherwise, of those friends and family members who didn't send a gift. A gift is optional, surely? Not a prerequisite for attendance at the wedding?

It's hardly the most cheery of topics on what is supposed to be a very happy day, but apparently 25% of you might be losing a friendship due to behaviour on their part or yours. But what went wrong?

Unforgiveable faux pas include drunkenness, unfunny or inappropriate speeches, stealing a bride's thunder or donning a bigger hat than her mum along with guests failing to turn up after sending RSVPs, arguments over arrangements, and bust-ups over stag and hen nights.

The study of 2500 married Brits commissioned by Debenhams Wedding Service included these bust-ups:

* A bride groom who was told by his best man the night before the ceremony that his bride-to-be had been bedding another fella for three months.

* A drunken guest who yelled out the name of a groom's ex-girlfriend when the vicar asked if there were any reason why the couple should not be wed.

* A bride and her female colleague who ended the night in a fist fight after the workmate arrived in a stunning white dress.

Keris mentioned The Apprentice teams were due to take on The National Wedding Show in this week's show. Did you watch it last night? The teams chose to try and sell high end wedding dresses (I spotted this Ian Stuart gown) and wedding cakes versus bridal/bridesmaid blingy tracksuits and the ilk. Both made around £5000 in sales (and not a single cake sold!)

One thing that really bothered me about the show was the absolute pushiness of the teams. One team member was on the verge of shouting at one woman because she wouldn't commit to a sale. Another young man muttered how the women was a 'dumb-dumb' because she didn't want the cakes he was trying to flog. She just didn't want them, simple. The judges mentioned the feedback was that people felt 'bludgeoned'. It was rude, desperate tactics. Yes, I realise it was their job to try and sell their wares but it was how they went about it that was quite appalling and that made me wonder how many of our readers have felt pressured into buying something for their wedding that they don't really want?

As 2008 is a Leap Year and features the four-yearly occurence of 29th February, now's supposedly the time for all forthright ladies to be planning to propose to their beaus.Ok, we all know it's a bit of rubbish but at least it's a sweet tradition. It all dates back to 1288 when Scottish law officially sanctioned women proposing and if rejected they were able to claim anything from a kiss to £1 or a silk gown - just add inflation into that and think of the riches!

“While February 29th is traditionally the day when women can propose on a Leap Year, Valentine’s Day is also the time when the fellas get down on one knee – but we reckon the shoe will be on the other foot this year, as girls exercise their traditional Leap Year right to propose,” says Debenhams Wedding Insurance spokeswoman Diane Jackson. Debenham's data already shows that vastly more women than men organise a wedding (61.8% in 2006, compared to 38.2% men and 62.9% women in 2007 with 37.1% men). So, could it be that women will now have to organise the engagement this year too? And will you be one of them?